It amazes me how easy it is to lose touch with some people. That’s what happened with some of my college girlfriends – we went from spending every night together through the 3 years we lived together, knowing the most mundane details about each other’s lives, to immediately following graduation we were spread across the country, seeing each other a few times a year, only knowing the big updates – boyfriends, new jobs, proposals.
In Honor of Galentine’s Day: How I Reconnected with My GirlfriendsFebruary 10, 2016
In honor of Galentine’s Day (yes, the Leslie Knope celebrate your girlfriends day from Parks and Rec, my new favorite “show I never watched when it was on TV but now love” show), I thought I’d share how my girlfriends and I went from just (sometimes) seeing each other at birthdays to going back to my phone buzzing constantly with what’s new in their lives.
I’d like to thank my cousin, Kara, for giving me the idea. It’s called 10 things. Every month, you and your girlfriends share via email 10 things going on in your life. Why email? It’s just much easier to type and read a few paragraphs than scroll through a text chain, especially when you are catching up on years of each other’s lives. Your 10 things could be about your in-laws, a new gym routine, TV show, anything. If 10 seems too much, start with 5. It literally saved my group of friends – we all suddenly felt reconnected. While babies, puppies and homes have taken over our lives now and we are more of a group chat crowd, we all comment on how excited we were to get the emails, drop everything and learn all about our friends’ lives.
With different schedules, for us it was easier than a group call and a great introduction to get back into each other’s lives. This was almost 5 years ago, and we are now so much closer than when we were a year or two out of school. If you feel a little out of touch with your friends, I’d encourage you to give it a try – just be sure to gut-check a few pals first to see if they’d want to participate and know that you may be the ring leader for the first few months!
How do you stay in touch with your friends?